This weekend has been far from ordinary. It is strange when life takes it course the laughter just seems to seep out of everything.
Making it on the list of things that occurred:
1. Grandma’s house caught on fire
2. Herb is in the hospital
3. No fun in the sun really at all this weekend except for what I got in the car
4. No house cleaning attempted; no house keeping claimed
5. Slept in at the cost of missing breakfast….it was worth it though!
6. Trying to freeze off a small but pesky little plantar wart….grrr…
7. Got a great chance to catch up with Sassy Sis and had some good humor with her children
Get a call early in the morning, Herb was having a hard time breathing so they took him into the hospital. Went to see him at lunch-time and we shared his meal because he just wasn’t all that hungry. He seemed lucid and with it. Good sign. I left work early to help judge a cheer try-out for a friend. I was planning on going over to Sassy Sister’s house right after. At approximately 6pm I went over there. She fed me wine and pizza and then we talked for a good 4 hours. Her 2 very smart beautiful little boys made me laugh so hard. They have so much energy! The best comment, just as I was walking out the door was “Here Ms. Cat! Don’t forget your baby wipes for your baby!” I looked at Sassy Sis and was completely puzzled! They made us both laugh to tears. Sassy goes, does he know something that we don’t know? HAHAHA. Nomad didn’t laugh as hard as we did about the situation…
Saturday and beyond:
I was up talking to Herb and I thought you all would get a kick out of this one. A few nights ago, he tried escaping. Uh huh….like the determined man he is, tried to get up on his own. He pulled his catheter and IV out. OUCH! When I got there, he just rolled his eyes. The one nurse said as he was trying to pull his cords out again, “you don’t want to pull your penis off now do you? Because that’s what will happen!” He just rolled his eyes and we just laughed. Hearing aid battery went dead. He seemed to be getting confused. Less crisp as the days progress. He still needs some paperwork to be signed and such but that I don’t think is going to happen.
Needless to say every family is dysfunctional, but Herb really doesn’t get along at all with his true blood family. This is not new news. It is such a shame. He has suspicions that their intentions are not from the heart….well I cannot speak on their behalf but, I can say that I agree with Herb 100%. This has been a hard process for me. It is very humbling seeing him go thru this…it also really sucks. I have done a lot of praying and discerning. I had to lift him up, witness him flashing me accidentally, him trying to escape and me actually holding him back and helping feed him. It has been a really hard process. To see a man who was completely independent and going thru this “damit, I need you to do this for me…” frustrated stage is a true bitch.
In my heart, I know he is tired of it all. I am hoping this is just a phase and he will bounce back once his medicine gets regulated. I truly never thought at 25 I would ever be walking with a friend thru this stage of his life. I know that he appreciates it…but he too feels as helpless as I do. Yesterday, was a rough day and that was hard. Today was especially hard because he was getting more confused. The nurse told me it was from carrying fluids on board…but you know when the joking gets less and he just is sitting there is simply enough. He keeps asking about his cart…”where’s my cart?” I would retort “Herb, It’s safe at the apartment for you.” Herb would then reply with a hesitance, “Ok…alright I guess.”
OH OH OH!!! I didn’t tell you!!! Thursday, Herb’s NEW motorized cart was almost accidentally stolen by another lady eating at the Cafe’. It looked similar enough to his, yet settings were different enough that yeah. He yells from across the room “hey HEY HEEEY” (progressively getting louder)…I simply walked up to her and told her I thought she had the wrong cart….she agree’d and that was that. It was flipping hilarious!!!
Well so that is that. Nomad is to be calling soon so I must jet! Love you all and remember (as Herb always says!) Life’s a bitch, then you die! (fingers crossed on the second part that isn’t the case this time!) Please keep him in your prayers!
Love your family. Be merciful and compassionate to them. We know not the struggles they face and we know not how much time they have left. Make sure to kiss and sincerely make up at the end of everyday. Do not let a moment waste! Tell them what they mean to you daily…they may get sick of it but, at least they will know!