I’m on top of the World, eh!

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Think about all the lovers and hurts you have accumulated up until this point in time.  Why didn’t your relationship work?  Did you realize that you fell out of “love”?  Did you realize that the words uttered were not consistent with the actions given in return?  Did you realize that you were duped?  This is where the hurt all begins….

Putting yourself out there is a hard task.  Those who are willing to do so shouldn’t be the ones getting burned.  Our generation has such a skewed view of what relationships should be like.  Our generation is lazy and has been given every opportunity to look for the easy way through school, work, relationships alike and because of that we get hurt.  They say they are trying to be “efficient” well my friend what you don’t get is that the extra time and effort invested into a relationship is called working hard for it.  If you don’t see it as being “easy” you don’t just jump ship.  That is a pathetic excuse for laziness and a quick way to be labeled as coward.

I am trying to really look at love in a different light this year.  Love is not something to take for granted or take lightly.  Love is a precious gem.  Love is hard work.  I was taught to love everyone, that is not to say I am going to “like” them all of the time, but I am called to treat them exactly how I expect others to treat me.  I have really tried to embrace this especially with those who have hurt me so deeply.

Loving someone is a conscious choice.  You do it because you are called to do so.  You are doing it because you know that ultimately down the road you hope someone would choose to love you too.  Love through the hurt.  It helps.  Embrace the hurt you feel right now and start taking baby steps toward GOOD relationships.

Let’s choose love…you deserve it!  You deserve to feel love and give love.  Why?  Because it makes you a better person in the end and that is all that matters.  You are one step closer toward being the best version of yourself you can be.  🙂  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8PrTzLaLHc

❤ The CatMan

When Harry Met Sally….Challenge for love continues!

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This weekend was spent learning a lot about love.  I am brought to one of my all time favorite movies of all time…When Harry Met Sally.  I love the chemistry between Meg Ryan and Billy Crystal. “Humping and pumping isn’t Sheldon’s strong suite”

As human beings we are constantly making and breaking bonds.  The bonds we do break leave imprints positive or for the negative.  Bonds that exist could be one of many types–physical, chemical, emotional, mental or spiritual.  Some people immediately connect and for that reason we must always be on guard.

There are songs written about love all the time.  But I don’t feel like the songs speaking of this love thing are really referring to love as much as they are referring to lusting for someone.  People automatically think sleeping with someone makes you able to love a person but that simply is not the truth at all.  Sleeping with someone out of context only leaves you open for physical and emotional hurt.  Why bring that upon ourselves?

What I have discovered that in order to know what love actually is you must have God involved.  He is the definition of selfless love.  Forgive me if this is a less than perfect verbalization.  Love is not simply partial but fully inclusive.  It doesn’t choose parts of a person, but desires a total transformation and fulfillment.  Love ultimately is a choice.  You choose to love others just as you choose anything else.  Love starts with appreciating who you are, what you have gone through and making a vow to commit to someone who sees how precious you are!

“Someone is staring at you in personal growth….” I believe the best things start from a friendship.  I believe this goes against what Harry states on that cab ride to NY, yet I am a firm believer.  If you cannot be there for your friends or yourself, how the heck else can you be there for a significant other that you are potentially have a family with…yeah I just don’t think that is possible!

Strangely, my dad and I were talking about relationships.  I haven’t necessarily had the best track record to date.  I am grateful for my past as it makes me feel like a survivor.  It wasn’t easy but heck now I know what I stand for and just how important it is to date the right person.  It is setting standards and never compromising on what is important to you.  Morals especially.

So, how do you know if you ‘love’ someone?  That’s the next thing on the list.  Love NOT lust someone.  Love is putting someone else’s needs in front of your own.  “The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves and not to twist them to fit our own image.  Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them” Thomas Merton (No man is an Island)  Love is a broad word.  It is something that should never be taken lightly.  It is something that we should all strive to do.  Think about this quote I just posted.  It is not just limited to those individuals we know and encounter on a regular basis.  It is also the strangers on the street, the customers, the people who give us grief…it is about loving each person with the same love.  Of course, we demonstrate that love differently for each person we encounter, but the underlying love shouldn’t change.

Support, commit, and love on someone you normally wouldn’t today.  🙂

Harry Burns: I’ve been doing a lot of thinking, and the thing is, I love you.

Sally Albright: What?

Harry Burns: I love you.

Sally Albright: How do you expect me to respond to this?

Harry Burns: How about, you love me too.

Sally Albright: How about, I’m leaving.

Harry Burns: I love that you get cold when it’s 71 degrees out. I love that it takes you an hour and a half to order a sandwich. I love that you get a little crinkle above your nose when you’re looking at me like I’m nuts. I love that after I spend the day with you, I can still smell your perfume on my clothes. And I love that you are the last person I want to talk to before I go to sleep at night. And it’s not because I’m lonely, and it’s not because it’s New Year’s Eve. I came here tonight because when you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.

Don’t Confuse your path…

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Life is a long journey.  We have paths that we take all the time.  Some more brutal than others.  You might consider transitions to be these paths where either you know you are walking into a hell-storm or it’s the calming before the storm or even just a beautiful walk in the park…I would like to have more of these please!  🙂  These periods of storm and peacefulness in contrast, are life in its purest form.

Nothing will be perfect, ever.  You can plan all you want and those plans will always change.  Choose to be flexible.  Choose to look past your current storm or transition and see the hope of a rainbow at the end.  If we focus on the dirt or pain of the moment, we lose sight of what is most important: survival.  This too shall pass.  Keep your chin up, keep persevering…stand a little taller and trust a little deeper.  Where ever you are at in your journey, embrace it.  Make the most of it and learn all you can from it.  Don’t let your  lack of sight through the downpour stop you…just keep going!

Today, “Don’t confuse your path with your destination.  Just because it’s stormy now doesn’t mean you aren’t headed for sunshine.”  -Unknown

❤ The CatMan

Living in fear…

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Why do some people continually chose to live their lives in fear?

That really isn’t living as much as it is settling.  Sitting complacent never gets you very far and in fact the very thought of complacency disgusts me!  Why wallow?  Why say I will put up with this when it is only holding you back?  Make the decision and choose not to live in fear today!  Ask yourself, what in my life am I SO afraid of?  I mean really, our fear is bigger in our head than it is in all actuality, right?  So let’s beat this mental game, choose to over come our fears and start LIVING our life the way we were intended to do!

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What are you sitting complacent for?  CHOOSE to live a greater life over letting your fears control your every move.  What are you going to do today to promote your goals, accomplish your dreams, and live this short life to the fullest?  Stay calm and remember baby steps…