Lessons of Day 60-63: Love is patient, love is kind…

I have learned several lessons this weekend.  Love is not pushy.  Love doesn’t try to force something to happen because WE think it needs to happen a certain way.  Love is not manipulative and love is most definitely not to objectify the person of interest or affection.  Love is not being a brat to someone just simply because you are hurting.  Love is so much more than what we make it out to be.  With love, everything is simply possible.  We must place our trust and faith a little higher and let God drive.  It is rather comforting to know that He is the one in control of my destiny and all I must do is be obedient, ask for the desires on my heart to be revealed, and remain faithful.

I trust everything happens for a reason.  I came across this article today and I simply wanted to cry.  This is as senseless as it comes and I cannot see a reason for this act.  I suppose to draw attention to the fact that THIS is NOT love.  http://www.examiner.com/article/bullied-boy-dies-after-schoolyard-punch-the-face-leads-to-seizures-and-coma.  This is just cruelty.  We say mean things to which can make others feel abused and dead figuratively.  We need to be aware of that so we are not victimizing others.

I learned also this weekend that I have a past.  I have so much that I have done over the course of my short life and that has made me who I am today.  I am not proud of some of the things I have done, but that has made me a better person over all.  I am to the point where I can look at myself honestly.  I can admit and take responsibility for my faults willingly.  I can discuss my faults openly and for that I too am thankful.  That is a huge milestone.

There were many saints who “lived a little” before becoming so pious.  Saint Augustine is one of them.  I draw much inspiration from him.  I also see so much in forgiving one’s self for their faults.  I realized that I had already been forgiven by the Big Guy, but I needed to be forgiving myself which I think is almost harder than asking for forgiveness in the first place.  It is a different spot to be in to be honest.

I think personally being able to be honest with yourself about who you are and what you desire to become is the beginning of truly seeing yourself as God sees you.  We are each a gift.  We need to view and acknowledge ourselves as such or else I do not believe that we can ever fully appreciate and love ourself to achieve what it is we ultimately deserve.  We deserve to love ourselves for whatever we have become and what we desire to become and aspire to be.  If we cannot love ourselves for the unique beings we are, then how on earth can anyone else see and love us?  It would make it rather hard if you ask me.

Those who get it….well…get it.  Those who don’t….won’t.  Pray for more people to get it.  It makes the world a better place if so!!

Found this little gem…

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“The Douche Lord”

Today I devote my blog entry to all of those men that make women’s life heck.  Oh you know who you are…Here’s a clue if you still don’t get it:  the Italian Stallion was definitely one of them.

 

One example of a Douche Lord

 

OK women beware.  This type of man lurks everywhere with only one motive in mind…”satisfy myself”.  How rude?  Very rude.

So first I am going to define what a Douche Lord is and then we will go from there.  A Douche Lord is a man who is usually full of himself in one way shape or form.  He think’s he cares for others but, really he is using them and OK with manipulating them to get what he wants.  His world revolves around numero uno.  (He is a victim of the Me-Me-Me syndrome)  Well this type of male is totally toxic for a woman’s self-esteem, divine nature, and just is a one man wrecking crew.

Here is a good blog I found highlighting some Douche Bags thru the ages: http://www.the-fed.org/articles/volume25/issue2/douches.html

A Douche Lord is King of the Douche Bags.  He may or may not be affiliated with a fraternal order.  More than likely he thinks he is a pretty boy, but really he just looks silly.  He tries too hard.  These men should be avoided at all cost!

 

hahahahahaha! 🙂 What goofs!

 

This weekend I realized that there is way too much of this “me” douche bag-ness in our society and culture.  Sorry men for just picking on you, but the fact is women can be Douche Lords as much as men can.  So it does go both ways.

Life isn’t really about us.  Life should be about a bigger picture.  How we as tiny humble beings are using our gifts to help serve others on their journey, how we can make someone’s day a little better, or how we can make an impact on people we come in contact with daily.  If we truly want to make a difference in this world then, we need to see what is in front of our faces and act/react accordingly.  Love starts with you.  Kindness starts with….say it…YOU.  Compassion starts with you.

Let’s all make a promise to ourselves today my followers to not be Douche Lords or Douche Bags.  Lets think of others today, not ourselves AND remember where we have been and where we are going.  This is fitting for the Christmas Season.  Be kind to all those traveling on this difficult journey called life and help a brother (or sister!) out!

Today (or everyday’s) Mantra:  “I will put aside my wants and selfish desires today and be more giving and forgiving.  I will make it a better day for my family and friends.”

Give, not to receive or ask in return.  That’s the first step to being happy loves!

Love and good blessings to you sweet friend!

 

XOXO

CatMan

Being honest with yourself…

Have you ever had someone who has helped your personal growth or development blossom despite all odds?  I have had a good handful of them.  Herb would be one of them and its fabulous.  He has helped teach me a few things about myself and life that I think would have taken me a lifetime to figure out!

For Herb, a giant reason he is so knowledgeable about life is because he has been around since 1914!!  December 5th, 1914….you do the math!  Well Herb is also a recovering alcoholic.  He claimed sobriety in 1960 and joined AA.  His story of how he quit was a funny and sad one.  One day he was at a pub and had been drinking all day.  He ended up drinking to the point of blacking out, jumping on a train and waking up in New York City!  He was so confused as to what happened that for him, it was his turning point.

He has been so touched by the AA 12 Step Program that he has taught me some of the lessons he learned the hard way.  What an awesome program!  The best piece of advice yet, was about being honest with yourself.  That is the start.

Being honest with yourself is a hard thing for humans.  It allows one to critically look at themselves, critique and accept their faults and failures.  Build upon where they fall short of the Glory of God.  We all fall short but, it is how we handle our short comings, what perspective we keep, and how grounded we can accept ourselves for who and what we are.  Each of us was designed differently.  Uniquely.  Special ordered with a designed mission.  If we are really being honest with ourselves, we realize what matters the most in our life–because that becomes very apparent.  We realize what can be eliminated because in the end it is only fluff.  We also may not know what mission lies ahead, but that is alright because we are secure with ourselves.

I know where I stand.  I know WHO I am.  I know what possibilities lie ahead and most of all I have complete faith in God and myself to know I place my own limitations on what I can and cannot do.  God challenges them daily.  I never thought that in certain circumstances I would be doing all of the stuff I am doing and still surviving!  Coaching, volunteering, working full time…finding time for spiritual growth and family time, social time, and rest and relaxation.  It’s an interesting dynamic.  All about balance.

 

EEPPP! Importance of balance....

 

When you finally are honest with yourself, things become very clear.  I have been so blessed to have many people helping me grow in all facets of my life.  Being grounded, being honest with yourself, and realizing your worth are the first steps to finding that balance.  Next step saying no!  🙂

Now, today is Tuesday.  I am a one woman wrecking crew.  I may be super honest with myself in saying this but I feel like I am drunk!  I am taking everything out in my path.  I slipped and almost fell on my butt walking out to start my car, dumped my drink all over my notebook and desk, Herb called at 8:30am, I was told by a friend that tonight was the only night before the new year that would work for him to get together (I have to work and his gift isn’t ready yet!), and I really wished my voice was solid.  🙂  My case of the Munday’s came a day late…about par for the course!  Today I smile at the chaos going on and thank my lucky stars I am alive!

Song of the day:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LOZuxwVk7TU

Have a great day!

CatMan