To Wong Foo Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar

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Last night, I was watching the movie “To Wong Foo Thanks for Everything, Julie Newmar” with my man friend and thought to myself, ‘there are some really good messages in this movie!’  Patrick Swayze played the lead role of Vida along side of Wesley Snipes who played Noxeema.  I must say both looked very convincing as women.  ANYways….

Vida has a bleeding heart.  She will insert herself if someone needs her to be there.  She is trying to look out for others, take them under her wing, and it seems just put other’s ultimately before herself.  What I realized last night was that sometimes it takes an adventure to figure out just what you are made of and what you can become.  It takes the support of friends and ultimately their love and acceptance.  It was a sentimental comedic approach to Vida’s example of support and love.  I think all women or “career girls” could take a lesson or two from her example.

She was calm in all the positions she landed herself in as well as carried herself with style and grace.  She did what she had to do for those she cared about EVEN if that meant having to step in the middle of a domestic violence situation to stand up for her new friend Carol Ann (Stockard Channing).  It was that relationship and that of another relationship with Chi-Chi which really demonstrated what supporting a friend can do.  Vida built others up.  She helped them feel fashionable and full of confidence.  She really did try to be a true friend to those who were around them.

Even though this was presented in a humorous fashion, it demonstrated strangers accepting outsiders and embracing them. They were loving to them and despite their very different upbringings were able to come together with a little kindness.  Goes to show you a little kindness goes a long way and it might just be enough to awaken your dormant spirit.  This little adventure changed their lives and brought them together.

Why not try to do as Vida does today!  Be kind to those around you and treat them as you desire to be treated.  Love them.  Be there for them.  Set the example for those who don’t get it.  You never know what impact that will have on them!

Hugs,
CatMan

In the end…

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“In the end, the only thing that will matter is the love that you gave. Life will not be measured by how many hours you put in at the office, the number on your paycheck, the car you drove, how many bedrooms your house was, the name on your clothing, or how many people you were able to impress. It will be measured by the impact you had on children, the kindness you showed to a stranger, and the belief you had in yourself. So live your passion, spend time with your family, love your friends, forgive your enemies, and be true to yourself. Remember the things that matter and embrace life as it unfolds. It’s a beautiful world out there…don’t miss it!”

Ignorance is not bliss…

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“Where there is charity and wisdom, there is neither fear nor ignorance.”
St. Francis of Assisi

On a side note, today started with laughter and it continues to do so.  A friend of mine’s texts just made me crack up!  Life is so very funny and it makes me glad knowing other people that have “incidentals” that they can share that don’t make my incidentals feel like I am the only one that accidentally wears a black undergarment under a white shirt either.  🙂  Super Woman just is the best.  That all being said, this is just my thoughts this morning.

It amazes me the amount of sheer ignorance people have.  Life for me has been so busy, hence why you haven’t heard from me in a while.  I started school in August and I am going proudly for Cosmetology.  I am excited at this change.  I personally figured out how to pay for my schooling.  I figured that out and made it work.  I do not expect anyone to help me pay this money back.  I do not expect or think that I am entitled to have anything.  I have been blessed to be given what I have and for that I make the most of it.  Some people simply don’t get it.  People become victims of their own excuses because they are lazy and don’t want to work for it.  Lazy never gets anyone anywhere.

Managing one’s resources is key to our very survival.  Managing our views and perceptions as well becomes a large part of this equation as well.  It seems there is a large amount of mismanagement and fear driven actions going on in this world today.  Also, it might be a lack of awareness and rising above the negative to really get results.  I, first of all, want to say that is hardly the way we should be living as we will be constant slaves to our current state, if that is truly the case.  Learning the basics of what our strengths, weaknesses, perception of self, what we NEED to survive…etc…we need to be able to personally identify these items within ourselves so we can make the most of our resources given.  It would be a complete shame for us to look and say “I have nothing to offer” as even the smallest most amount of anything.  Kindness is one thing anyone can offer and it doesn’t cost a thing!  But, I must remind you though, kindness is sometimes very hard when we are looking at someone we do not like.  If it is truly a gift then we should give it freely despite who it is toward.

I am learning that ignorance is one of the leading diseases to living is fear and death in our world.  Side affects include: apathy, negativity, anger, lack of understanding, sarcasm, laziness, unhappiness….etc.  If you think you are living in this state, you are wrong!  You are a mere zombie.  If you are truly living, what are you afraid of?  If you have all your ducks in a row, you do everything as you ought to and you pray daily…God never says it will be easy, but you will always be taken care of.  These security blankets of “stuff” you possess cannot be taken with you so why should we worry about what happens to a book, a hat, a new shirt…because of pride, that is why.  We take great pride in ourselves to which if in check is a very good thing.  We cannot let pride be the main objective; however or else it will become like fear and consume us wholly.  In the end, these negative feelings hinder our ability to see what we can posses and give others.

Today, I will personally stop making excuses and raise my level of personal awareness and show compassion and kindness toward those who aren’t there yet.  I can give that much.  I can do so generously without money either.  Isn’t that the greatest gift that keeps on giving anyways?

Give what you have and all will come back to you.  Let us not be victims of our own circumstance.  Let’s treat the disease and move forward.  Let us release the negativity and offer it up. I always find the more I give the struggles up, the more it is thrown back as positives.  At the end of the day, the positives are what propel you, drive you, and make a difference.  Keep your head and chin up.  Stay on your knees and let’s work through the ignorance together.  By raising our awareness, we will increase in wisdom and give more charity in return.

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Affirmation and Mantra for today:  “Let me raise my personal awareness.  Let me not be a victim of circumstance and negativity.  Let me give gifts of compassion and kindness to all I encounter.  Let me walk fearless knowing God is with me always.”

❤ The CatMan

Oh to be yourself…Go walk naked!

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“To be nobody but yourself in a world that’s doing its best to make you somebody else, is to fight the hardest battle you are ever going to fight. Never stop fighting.”  –E.E. Cummings

So I am really struggling right now blog friends.  I am finally starting to understand how much really loving people…not like your average gushy mushy love, but really pouring forward all emotions and heart into others is very hard.  This means practicing understanding, patience, kindness, trust, and knowing eventually this period of love will pay off, Right?  Practicing and encompassing all gifts of virtue and yet, strange enough that is not enough for a person to come to grips with how much love you are giving to them!  Love is so foreign people who reside on the surface.  They try to walk 100% away from this “love” thing because it is a vulnerable foreign feeling found only at the very core of our beings and when we were children.  As adults, this is a feeling that is a rarity and seemingly so distant in our current live style.

Our hearts can become hard.  Our attitude callused.  And then when we find someone to which is willing to pour forth love and give you anything/everything you need for success–we are confused, tormented, and fearful as to WHY?  Why me?  Why do you have this invested in me?  What did I ever do to you?  Well the simple answer is you didn’t have to do anything…it is just because I love you!

As hard as this feeling of love is in demonstrating it to others…I think it can at times be hard to be yourself in such a world that can be cold and cruel.  One should be themselves and have the strength and courage to do so to the best of their ability.  Just simply being yourself is hard.  Being yourself doesn’t mean being misguided like these “little rebels” can be…but, being yourself means stripping the fluff off and developing what’s left.  That is the real you.

What a confusing, sometimes bitter cold world we live in today.  Despite the negative, we must strive to ALWAYS find hope.  There is still a lot of that in this world.  Although you might have to dig a little deeper to find it.  It will be well worth the scavenger hunt when the treasure: HOPE is found.

 

Last night, I was asked if I had ever been “skinny” dipping.  (gasp!)  Well not in the way he was thinking, but I have started walking naked more often.

Go on a walk today.  Naked.  I dare ya!

“Oh…but I can’t!”  (you respond)

“Oh…but you can and you will probably love it!” says the CatMan!

(The crowd GASPS…….)

Strip yourself down to your core and walk around naked.  You might actually like that version of you.  That’s the hope I am talking about!  You might feel smut free then and you may actually feel better about letting yourself out!  Get to know the real you and embrace!  Once that naked beautiful person comes out of the hard shell they were in, you could just discard that shell (as you won’t need it anymore).  Don’t be afraid!  The real you is not so bad.

 

We do it to Pistachio nuts all the time.  They are considered elite nuts and when shelled they are beautiful!   Precious green goodness.   Just remind yourself that when you are second guessing “going naked”.  🙂

That is all,

❤ The CatMan

“The Douche Lord”

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Today I devote my blog entry to all of those men that make women’s life heck.  Oh you know who you are…Here’s a clue if you still don’t get it:  the Italian Stallion was definitely one of them.

 

One example of a Douche Lord

 

OK women beware.  This type of man lurks everywhere with only one motive in mind…”satisfy myself”.  How rude?  Very rude.

So first I am going to define what a Douche Lord is and then we will go from there.  A Douche Lord is a man who is usually full of himself in one way shape or form.  He think’s he cares for others but, really he is using them and OK with manipulating them to get what he wants.  His world revolves around numero uno.  (He is a victim of the Me-Me-Me syndrome)  Well this type of male is totally toxic for a woman’s self-esteem, divine nature, and just is a one man wrecking crew.

Here is a good blog I found highlighting some Douche Bags thru the ages: http://www.the-fed.org/articles/volume25/issue2/douches.html

A Douche Lord is King of the Douche Bags.  He may or may not be affiliated with a fraternal order.  More than likely he thinks he is a pretty boy, but really he just looks silly.  He tries too hard.  These men should be avoided at all cost!

 

hahahahahaha! 🙂 What goofs!

 

This weekend I realized that there is way too much of this “me” douche bag-ness in our society and culture.  Sorry men for just picking on you, but the fact is women can be Douche Lords as much as men can.  So it does go both ways.

Life isn’t really about us.  Life should be about a bigger picture.  How we as tiny humble beings are using our gifts to help serve others on their journey, how we can make someone’s day a little better, or how we can make an impact on people we come in contact with daily.  If we truly want to make a difference in this world then, we need to see what is in front of our faces and act/react accordingly.  Love starts with you.  Kindness starts with….say it…YOU.  Compassion starts with you.

Let’s all make a promise to ourselves today my followers to not be Douche Lords or Douche Bags.  Lets think of others today, not ourselves AND remember where we have been and where we are going.  This is fitting for the Christmas Season.  Be kind to all those traveling on this difficult journey called life and help a brother (or sister!) out!

Today (or everyday’s) Mantra:  “I will put aside my wants and selfish desires today and be more giving and forgiving.  I will make it a better day for my family and friends.”

Give, not to receive or ask in return.  That’s the first step to being happy loves!

Love and good blessings to you sweet friend!

 

XOXO

CatMan