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Shift in Focus. Adjust Perception. Change in heart.

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‎”When one focuses too much on the negative, all they see is road blocks. When one focuses on the positive, that is where one finds hope…” (me)

 

It is so easy to allow ourselves to be drug down by the muck surrounding us or listen to others that are only trying to bring us down.  Unfortunately, it is harder to be a leader than it is just to allow us to be sucked in to the abyss.  It is so easy to listen to the negative bringing us down….then we crash…If we ever expect to make it past tomorrow’s muck we must be willing to change our focus and stop listening to the outside noise.  Focus on what is good.  Focus on what we have going for us and focus on hope.  Hope is a key component to this whole situation.

One way I like to ensure that I don’t become a dirty muck pie is to visually wipe myself clean (literally take my hands and fling off the negative) and affirm myself often.  I constantly need to remind myself exactly what my purpose is.  Without affirmation, we can lose focus.  Something simple would be “I am a vessel to which God uses for His Good Works.”  I also like to personally make take my focus deep inside of me and allow God to transform from the inside out.  Think about it, this takes YOU out of it and allows Him to work His magic.  “Send my mind, body and soul into light and love” is another great affirmation.

Human’s are naturally imperfect.  We will always have flaws.   By taking us out of the mix, we are able to recognize we are a tiny part of this bigger picture.  It is amazing to understand what your purpose is and to fall in line with the circle of life!  Each little purpose that we all have is apart of a bigger entity.  We might be small, but the purpose of the small is equal of importance to the bigger picture’s results!  Without the little parts, the picture will never be fully complete!

Next key component…adjust your perception and do not make anything bigger than what it is.  You own that girl….or guy?!   This is a true test of inner peace when you can keep everything in check.  You spill coffee and it goes down the front of your shirt…take a deep breath and embrace it.  We have all been there and you know what?  Starbucks has a shirt with a “printed coffee stain” down the front of it!  You can get that for the bargain of $80 at your local department store.  Someone cancels on you, again.  OK.  Not a big deal!  That is life–so what are you going to do now?  Maybe go on a walk, or find a little cafe’ close and just observe!  Life is good remember.  It’s not the end of the world.

Now we are focused.  Everything is in check and balanced, so now what?  Now we have to make the most important change!  Change in our heart will not just happen overnight.  It takes time to get ourselves back to a state that is more enjoyable.  Let me explain….http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eefP4bG2EkI&feature=related

When we were children, we had very little to worry about and things seemed relatively easy.  Something happens to our heart as we grow up to be adults where we allow the muck of the world to steal our innocence.  Now it seems we are always stressed, always on the go, and always rushing without really taking time to smell the roses.  This is definitely a problem.  When this situation gets to this point, we are really missing out on living.  Those little things as a child we so dearly loved are now buried under adult junk.  UH OH…now what?  A change of heart is needed to keep in balance.

Start simple.  “Live simply so that others might simply live.” (Mother Teresa) Learn to notice everyone on the street, yes even the weird ones.  The people who are the most interesting are the one’s (usually) last noticed.  Dare you to talk to one!  (Oh did your mother tell you not to talk to strangers?  Well it’s fine now, you’re an adult!)  Learn to ask people questions when you don’t understand.  Learn how to give your time and knowledge to helping others succeed.  Hey they might thank you later!   Learn to get back to that child like innocence and you might just find yourself living an even more incredible life.  Take the ownership back and start living life with a purpose!

❤  CatMan  🙂

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Creative Cursing…

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I picked up this book while with Nomad called Creative Cursing.  Well I figured since I have a “sailor mouth” anyways, why not?  I might learn something….or laugh a little harder?  You never quite know with me.  I brought this into the office with me yesterday.  I thought it might be able to loosen everyone up (or get us a sexual harassment suit!) from the already tight tense atmosphere.  OH it totally did the trick….

Most of these words I will not mention for fear of there being little ears…that is not the way I want to scar children.  I already scar them with my spastic and random personality…I am like a nothing they have ever met and because of that I am preeeeetttttyyyy sure they might at first be afraid of me.  That’s ok.  I would rather them be afraid of me for being a little weird than me having to put the “fear of God” in them.  Maybe that’s just me though.

“Nut Muncher” (hehe)

“Panty Bandit” (your face is slowly turning red…I see it!)

…at least I’m not a “Schlong Jacket” (hahaha)

“Sissy Wanker” (what’s that?)

“Snot Biscuit” (eww haha)

…Stop being such a ….”Wench Waffle!!!” (at this point I know you are just crying…)

…YOU….ARE…. SUCH-A…. “Slut Sniffer!!” (bahahahaha!  We all know one of those…hahahahahaha)

…oh yeah?…at least I’m not a “Sack Beater”  (come on….at this point if you are not just about to wet yourself then, there is something wrong with you!!!!)

This is my therapy.  Relatively innocent, or at least I feel like it is!  I woke up not in the best of moods this morning.  I literally had to force myself to choose to smile and that wasn’t too hard because the sun started to shine!  WHOO!!

Have you ever just realized that things are just as good as they ought to be?  Prayers are answered and everything is starting to make a little more sense!  🙂

Come on Nomad?  Really? http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FDUOcHg5ijg OK nothing implied here but, I really like this song at the present moment.  Kind of funny.  Freaked you out didn’t I??  😉

xoxo

CatMan

“Only Prettier” according to Miranda Lambert…..

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So relationships are something that we can all agree on…if you are in the wrong one it can just be so toxic to the spirit, soul, and over all emotion/passion for life.  Why is it so hard to set all crap aside and just get to know someone for who they are?  Pride, selfishness, and over all doubt gets in the way of anything real being experienced.  Is it really necessary for a person to have so many issues that they can’t figure out who they are then attempt to love someone when they can’t love themselves first?  That is so backwards!

A lot of you might know that a year ago this last December (so like 14 months-ish?) I got out of a very toxic relationship with a man, Doubting T, who did exactly as described above: couldn’t selflessly love himself first and in return how could I ever EVER expect him to love me in a healthy manner?  Now don’t get me wrong, there were many red flags from the start.  I didn’t feel like I could share my whole self without being called self-righteous.   I felt like a part of me died….that’s because it did!  I was so blinded because I cared so very much for a man who just didn’t have it in him to love me the way I should be loved.  Toxic as Britney Spears might sing…

We have all been there.  I learned a lot about life because of that experience.  I learned to listen to my gut.  I learned to always be yourself, and those who love you for you will accept that.  If you can’t accept that then you will never fully appreciate them.  You can’t always listen to your heart because it has a check and balance system with your gut and in return that is something that will need to be discerned.  I can honestly say that I have finally have found my peace.

A few months back when he started dating a new girl, I still had a lot of hurt and loose ends.  I had a lot of anger still at that point that literally took me months to work through.  Miranda Lambert’s CD Revolver got me thru much of that.  I can say later this past summer I was in “Crazy Ex-GF” mode…http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A2VZZ-17DHw&feature=related.  No joke.  I didn’t think I was ever going to move past this stage.  BUT to my surprise I did.

I am tired of investing the time in someone who can’t even be a friend to me at this point.  I can’t hold it against him.  His new girl won’t let him be friends with me and even though he promised me we would never get to this point.  He broke that promise.  And that kind of hurt.  I am kind of a ‘word is your bond’ type girl…so you can imagine the type of emotion and hurt involved there.  I just yesterday forgave him for that.  I am completely at peace I must say.  I feel accepting of whatever  happens I cannot change that (Serenity Prayer).  I have peace in my heart and soul.  My spirit feels released from the clutches of the hurt and I feel like a bird released from a long 2 years of entanglement.  I feel like my personal self-development has only blossomed.

I have been blessed with great friends of both sexes that have helped cut down the ivy and vine work that had captured my spirit and soul and release the CatMan that everyone was used to seeing.  They helped release the part of me that had been smothered and for that I am eternally grateful!  Today was one of those days where a friend helped a sister out big time.  🙂

For months now I have had a printer that Doubting T gave me thinking that we might be able to utilize at work.  Well it didn’t end up working with our system…so we sent him a note and said “hey what do you want us to do with this?  do you want to pick this up?”  His response was indifference.  OK.  Fine.  So what did I do?  I loaded that thing in my little bug and called Laugh-a-lot and we ventured out to do one thing.

ANOTHER CatMan Original: This is my proof...evidence if you will...

Return the printer to its rightful owner.  LET ME TELL YOU….2 itty-bitties should not be lugging this piece of work in high-heels across a walk way that hadn’t been cleared.  We grunted, strained, and laughed mostly but we eventually got it in the door!  Never underestimate the will power of 2 very determined beautiful women!  20 minutes later, damage was done.  In my mind, I kept saying this was only a printer…only a printer…haha WITH LEAD ATTACHED TO IT!  hehe.

 

I had a wonderful day today.  I spent time with a friend who really matters and makes my life better just by being in it!   As Laugh-a-lot put it best, “…omg that was hilarious! You are the salsa to my burrito….and that really means a lot. Comes from the heart.”  🙂  She really gives a shit about me!  THAT’S HUGE!

As I reminded my dear friend Super Woman, “I actually give a shit about you” is a club is open and you have to find members and keep them near and dear to you.  🙂  Anyone interested in joining???

 

A CatMan original: Here is my make shift card....until my other one makes it to my home. 🙂

Here’s where I am at currently:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xoAIpQIsq5Q