“Who’s going to want me?”


I want you to take 5 minutes and read through this article.  It was beautifully written and puts a lot into perspective.  http://www.positivelypositive.com/2013/06/17/whos-going-to-want-me/.

Can you think of 5 words to describe you at this very moment and in the now?  Are they positive?  Negative?  Would you like to change them?  What emotions are involved?

Love is recognizing your self-worth and instead of staying in the negative, allow it to be an opportunity for giving love to you first.  When you really learn to love yourself for all your many quirks and gifts, you start to learn to help other’s see what makes you love them.  You can start to help others appreciate themselves and their gifts/quirks too.  That is when you start to resonate.

Who’s going to want me?  I am not sure….but it’s those who I can resonate that might be the place to start!

❤ CatMan


Through the Heart of a Child



Posted above is a beautiful story that everyone should take a few moments to see.  It is a story about brotherly love.  Conner and Cayden Long are brothers.  Cayden has Cerebral Palsy.  Conner has included his brother in everything.  He doesn’t have to, but he really wants to include him.  This is through the heart of a 9-year-old child.

How much better this world would be if we all thought to include each other as Conner has done with Cayden.  Today, I want to challenge you to look at situations and at others through the heart of a child.  They look with such hope and innocence; with such love.

Let us remember this challenge today.

❤ CatMan

21 Moments


Today’s reflection on my pursuit of love comes with a few beautiful little finds…I think you might agree upon seeing them too!

1) http://twistedsifter.com/2013/05/humans-of-new-york-brandon-stanton/

2) http://thedailylove.com/how-to-let-a-man-know-you-are-interested-and-a-special-letter-to-men/

3) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SJeV9H8SGdg

As you can see, there are many ways to capture and express your feelings on love.  Love can be found in all forms.  Whether you are a stranger in NY, a man trying to help a brother out, and or expressing visually in the form of a video about your other half–love can be found just about everywhere!  It is moments like these above which remind us of how human we are and that no matter how much we try to express this feeling, it still is imperfect yet meaningful.

❤ CatMan

In the end…


“In the end, the only thing that will matter is the love that you gave. Life will not be measured by how many hours you put in at the office, the number on your paycheck, the car you drove, how many bedrooms your house was, the name on your clothing, or how many people you were able to impress. It will be measured by the impact you had on children, the kindness you showed to a stranger, and the belief you had in yourself. So live your passion, spend time with your family, love your friends, forgive your enemies, and be true to yourself. Remember the things that matter and embrace life as it unfolds. It’s a beautiful world out there…don’t miss it!”

Love: Time is Precious


I just wanted to share a story that made a profound impact on me this morning.  I cannot imagine what a loss his family is experiencing.  Here is someone who truly encompassed living.  I don’t know Zach personally, but after watching this video I felt like I did.  I urge you to take a few minutes to watch Zach’s story.  http://www.upworthy.com/this-kid-just-died-what-he-left-behind-is-wondtacular-rip

Never ever take what time you have for granted.  Never take your friends and family for granted.  Never miss a second saying I love you, or wishing them to have a great day if you sincerely mean it.  I am not sure why at this point in my life I have become so sentimental or sensitive toward living.  Maybe it was that nightmare I had that “woke me up”.

Love costs nothing.  It is freely given in the purest form.  It is something that must be chosen to give out and to whom it will be given.  Some are more generous with love than others.  The amount of generosity one may have with loving others might indicate greater understanding toward the virtue of love.  In the end, I truly believe that we receive what it is we give out.

When you look at your life, when you really see what you have done and all the lives you have touched–will you be satisfied?  Will you say, I really tried to embrace life in all its joys, sorrows, and worth?  Did I do the best I can?  Was my heart fully in it 100%?

I think once you start to realize the value of life you start also equally looking at everything differently.  You start really seeing how precious it is.  When you have someone slip too soon from you, you have the choice to be bitter or you have the choice to love more.  I suppose disasters such as the tornado in Oklahoma also make you realize how short, but sweet life is.  I can imagine when those parents were kissing their child good-bye yesterday, I am sure that it never crossed their mind that this might be the last time they see their little one.  Tragic.

Treasure the ones you love and hold on tighter.  Don’t make the mistake of taking those who mean the most to you for granted.

❤ CatMan

Use your words…I am enough



You know a realization that I came to the other day?  The english language is one of the most difficult and dynamic of languages with such an extensive array of desired words for any occasion, feeling, or inanimate objects and yet one of the most misunderstood/underused language at that.  With this being said, I feel like we limit ourselves greatly when we choose not to take advantage of learning how to communicate to the fullest ability using a larger vocabulary instead of words that are over used and negative.

Communication is something that is very much-needed to develop solid relationships.  Communicating when you appropriately love someone verse getting angered, sad, or any other emotion you are trying to convey is key to making sure the other clearly understands what you are trying to say.  I feel like a lot of times people in general cannot peg their own emotions; therefore there lies a lot of confusion trying to express their feelings when they cannot properly label it themselves!  Have you ever had that happen to you?  I know it has to me!

My first suggestion, get to know yourself better.  Start separating out what is emotional, physical, mental…start deciding what makes you feel certain ways.  Start identifying the triggers to which set you off (diffuse them), makes you happy (embrace them), makes you calm (learn and seek them), makes you upset (address the root of the nature and act accordingly to fix), and what sets your heart on fire (keep that of which keeps you alive the closest!).  The only way to translate yourself is to literally get to know yourself to the best of your ability.

Once you learn to translate and identify the little idiosyncrasies that your individual self has, you start to bring your awareness and recognize those qualities in others.  You will be able to intelligently make connections with others and inadvertently bond.  You can see your strengths, your weaknesses, your imbalances and where improvement can be made. For me personally, I realized emotionally I was out of balance.   Awareness was key to make that weakness better.

In any given day, have you ever tracked what words you use the most in your vocabulary? Have you ever given it any thought to the implications of these words as they have an effect on your audience?  Are your words predominantly positive or negative?  Do you swear?  Do you belittle people?  Do you try to boost your ego?……all of these questions take honesty.  Figure out why you act the way you do and address the problems.  Work through them.  Working through the problems is hard and takes a great level of honesty. Not everyone is ready to be honest with themselves enough to acknowledge their faults.  It is not a fun feeling dealing with an ego blow…yet when we do face an ego blow, it is one of the most liberating ways to experience freedom and progress!  It is truly a beautiful feeling!!

How you communicate with others will determine how they receive you and perceive you. If you desire a positive perception, act accordingly.  Be kind.  Be loving.  Be yourself unapologetically.  You deserve solid relationships which begin with you.  Do your best always for God and for others.  Remember, you are enough!


❤ The CatMan

I’m on top of the World, eh!




Think about all the lovers and hurts you have accumulated up until this point in time.  Why didn’t your relationship work?  Did you realize that you fell out of “love”?  Did you realize that the words uttered were not consistent with the actions given in return?  Did you realize that you were duped?  This is where the hurt all begins….

Putting yourself out there is a hard task.  Those who are willing to do so shouldn’t be the ones getting burned.  Our generation has such a skewed view of what relationships should be like.  Our generation is lazy and has been given every opportunity to look for the easy way through school, work, relationships alike and because of that we get hurt.  They say they are trying to be “efficient” well my friend what you don’t get is that the extra time and effort invested into a relationship is called working hard for it.  If you don’t see it as being “easy” you don’t just jump ship.  That is a pathetic excuse for laziness and a quick way to be labeled as coward.

I am trying to really look at love in a different light this year.  Love is not something to take for granted or take lightly.  Love is a precious gem.  Love is hard work.  I was taught to love everyone, that is not to say I am going to “like” them all of the time, but I am called to treat them exactly how I expect others to treat me.  I have really tried to embrace this especially with those who have hurt me so deeply.

Loving someone is a conscious choice.  You do it because you are called to do so.  You are doing it because you know that ultimately down the road you hope someone would choose to love you too.  Love through the hurt.  It helps.  Embrace the hurt you feel right now and start taking baby steps toward GOOD relationships.

Let’s choose love…you deserve it!  You deserve to feel love and give love.  Why?  Because it makes you a better person in the end and that is all that matters.  You are one step closer toward being the best version of yourself you can be.  🙂  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=g8PrTzLaLHc

❤ The CatMan

Love is Giving the Gift of Possibility!


“When we love, we always strive to become better than we are. When we strive to become better than we are, everything around us becomes better too.”
― Paulo CoelhoThe Alchemist

Today, I simply want to leave you with this clip from someone who is very important for so many different reasons.  This woman that is spoken about played a dynamic role in changing the face of children/adults and individuals alike with disabilities.  Eunice Shriver was an amazing woman who I admire greatly in her efforts in creating the organization Special Olympics.  Enjoy!  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YjYuj4BvIsc&feature=youtu.be

❤ The CatMan