“A friend is someone who knows all about you and still loves you.”
― Elbert Hubbard
There are some friends that just hang around. They might not be consistently there in your life and yet they enter in and out when you need them the most. Like a woven ribbon, in and out during periods of your life to which they need you or you need them. Visualize.
When you look at your life and the plethora of situations, persons to which have broken your heart, those who have supported you through all of it….those who have been there when a family member passes away and it is hard. Those who are there to listen, provide advice, pray with you, and those who understand. A friend might not be there for all of your life, but those who are there through enough of the worst times and the good times will see your character and growth. When you aren’t at your best and when you are at your best–that friend could care less as all they want to do is be there for you to love on you. They chose to love you anyways.
A friend accepts you as you are when you meet them. A friend understands you are as much of a work in progress as they are. A true friend will be honest with you and be there when you need them the most. A friend is able to love on you when far away. A friend finds a way to remind you (when you aren’t feeling special or particularly positive about yourself) that you matter to them and “…without YOU friend, WITHOUT YOU, my life would be out of sorts.” A friend will keep you in check when you are being a fool. A friend will call you out when you aren’t being the best you can be, yet they will lovingly help you get to where you CAN be the best version of yourself at that moment in time if you allow them to help. Whether this friend physically, spiritually, mentally or emotionally is connected with you (or all of the above)–whether you see them every day or not–a good friend is hard to come by.
Hang on to those friends when you find them; the ones who will love you no matter what you have become, continue to be, or desire to be. They are our life line. They are our sanctity, pleasure, grace. Those relationships are the very glue that will help mold you and keep you growing. Never take these friends for granted.
Reciprocation is also advised. If you are given an opportunity where your friend needs you–be there for them as much as you are able to be. It is in that rhythmic give and take of your friendship to which both parties will develop even more respect for one another…you will begin to have a relationship with this person which will mutually become even more meaningful. So even though friends might not be there through it all, they might desire to be in the end. That is the beauty of friendship. It is the very foundation to which all things meaningful begin.
I challenge you today to evaluate your friendships. Evaluate who is meaningful to you, who you haven’t been such a good friend to, and those who have the potential to be even more to you. It will only enrich your life further.